I don't need to wear a bikini, I just don't want to wear a tee shirt...

I said that to my roommate last night when she asked me about my goal weight.

We discussed our goal weights a little, and part of my explanation about what I wanted my body to look like included that phrase. Now I can't get it out of my head.

I don't want to be so nonchalant about this. I also don't want to have rose-colored glasses on, either.

I am extremely overweight. I have a LOT of weight to lose.

I'm in my thirties now, so I know it's even more difficult to lose and keep it off.

Where do you all stand in a discussion like this? Are you fighting for the "dream body," or are you just working to get there as best as you can? What works best for you?